Lessons in Attraction: Lesson 3

I'm sorry this took so long to get out, but it is by far the most important and kind of the reason I started this trilogy in the first place. 

I am a very opinionated person about fashion and what looks good (especially on girls). I only do this because I have the utmost respect for them. Let me try to explain.

I watch shows like What Not to Wear with my mom and we like to comment with the hosts. Well one day I was watching some interview on one of the Early shows (or Good Morning America or something) where Clinton Kelly was giving an interview about fashion (naturally). Anyways, he said something that kind of sparked this post,  

"Every woman is beautiful..."

That is SOOOOOOOOO true and I think girls need to hear that more often than they do. If you know me you know I'm not normal. (Understatement maybe but lets keep this blog moving shall we?) I like to complement girls on what they wear, or their hairstyle or just about how much I love them. Not because I'm trying to flirt with them (although this is certainly a good way to gentleman :) but because I feel like girls need to hear it more than they do. 

Today it was mentioned at church, the importance of respecting women. Well, I have a freakin' awesome Dad whom I think did an excellent job at just that. I therefore get REALLY irritated when guys don't respect women (the a-typical jock attitude drives me up the wall...cannot stand it). Women deserve to be respected after all they put themselves through.

Just on a side and slightly cliche note but nevertheless important....Everything God creates is beautiful and perfect. Sorry, I know but still think about it. Sometimes I think we take advantage of the God-given beauty we are given. Ask yourself this question, "Would God ever create something imperfect or ugly." NO absolutely not.

The only thing girls have to do is learn how to flatter themselves with the right style and cut of their clothes, the right hairstyle, and the right perspective on life. Seriously. Girls I love you. I want you to look good always and you have the absolute right to, so....go on and be beautiful.

EVERY WOMAN IS BEAUTIFUL. end of story.

Now you must watch one of the best transformations ever! I think she is just the cutest thing and I just can't handle how innocent she is. Check out her transformation, and the comments they make during it. At the end there is a very brief image of her with glasses on and SERIOUSLY she is adorable!

"the whole purpose of a dress is to make a girl feel pretty"

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Lessons in Attraction: Lesson 2

Things that make you less attractive:

SLOUCHING!

Girls, just about every inch of your body looks 10 times worse when you slouch. ESPECIALLY in immodest clothing. I seriously just had a memory wave of scarring high school fashion flops. euhhh. By standing up straight (not overly so...nobody wants you're butt sticking out because you're trying to stick other things out. Seriously.) you show a natural beauty and confidence about yourself, what you're wearing, who you are as a person..the list just goes on and on.

LACK OF CONFIDENCE (NOT VALLEY-GIRL)

I realize that life is hard girls but there is no reason you should sulk around. I can understand having a bad day. Only show that to your closest friends. Okay? Because your close friends will console you and do what good friends should do. But if I see you walking around sulking, doing the puppy dog look thing. It doesn't get much worse. Nevertheless, you should not put on a fake Valley-Girl persona if you aren't like that.  I guarantee you can't pull it off attractively if that's not who the real you is. 

QUESTIONABLE CLOTHES

If you're the kind of girl you're parents raised you to be, you would never purposefully wear those kind of clothes. I can't figure out why girls continue to do it though. Do you seriously want guys looking at that part of you (whatever it may be) instead of getting to know you? Do you like attracting those kind of guys? I guarantee again that their not the type that's gonna make you really happy. Be modest. There really is something to be said about wearing modest clothes. Classy. Gorgeous. Beautiful. Elegant. Stunning. Well, I think you get the idea.

IMMATURITY!!!!

WOW. I've talked to many a guy about this and lets be honest, we want someone who is fun outgoing, creative, healthy, etc. BUT mature as well. There is a time and a place to act like High Schoolers...........in High School. OOOOoooo this erks me so bad. If you have something to say to me, SAY IT! (now that I'm writing this I'm pretty sure I've already blogged this. But obviously some of you did not get the message!) There is a time and a place for slumber party giggling betwixt your girlfriends about inside jokes or whatever. DO NOT do that in front of guys. To an extent of course you can make the initial eye contact if you're on a double date with your BFF and just giggle in your head. Talk about it later. But that is just plain rude. DON'T talk about your weight! Be proud of what you got or do something about it. LEARN TO BE RESPECTFUL of other people's time and money. We guys are forking out a lot of dough for you and you're not even our WIFE! One more thing and I'll be done. YOU'RE in college. (okay two) LEARN to act on your own accord. Sure your parents are great advise sources...heck they've made all the mistakes we're making right now BUT you are an ADULT at least that's the kind of people I thought were in COLLEGE. AND. Branch out. Learn to make new friends. Don't leave your old friends. Heavens. But be adventurous.

Okay wow..sorry...that was a lot but I'm done now.

{Sir Charles III}

Lessons in Attraction: Lesson 1

Here it goes people. My first stab at a trilogy post.

I often get asked questions about how girls should get guys to notice them. So here goes.

Things that make you attractive:

SELF CONFIDENCE

This is tricky girls I'm just gonna be straight about it. Being too confident often scares the guys. We want to be able to approach you and for some guys it takes days to muster up the courage just to finally press the send button after dialing the entire number. I'm just gonna tack on as well, it is VERY hard to go up to a girl when she is around all her little friends one friend is not the ideal situation, two is better...let me illuminate. Scenario 1 -- I go up to a girl who has her best friend next to her. I don't want to ask her out in front of her best friend because 1 it's slightly awkward and I'm already self confident of myself; I don't need the BF judging how I'm asking her friend out and 2 I don't want to offend anyone. Scenario 2 -- I go up to a threesome of girls and ask if I can speak with one of them privately. Sure, everyone knows what is going on, yes maybe the remaining two now have the opportunity to co-judge you BUT at least you can pull the girl aside and feel like you're alone. Scroll to the bottom to understand the rest of Self Confidence.

 

 DRESSING WELL
 

So a while back I thought this girl was way out of my league (none of you know her that read this blog so don't worry). Needless to say we started flirting and I asked her out. I knew she wanted to go on the date with me, BUT she most definitely didn't demonstrate that by the way she dressed...her shoes had holes in them. Now you all know I really care about how girls dress themselves so maybe an average guy wouldn't notice but I think you get the idea. Even if we don't say anything MOST guys notice how you dress, even if it is subconsciously. Besides, how you dress says a lot about the kind of person you are. You can really understand how people want to be perceived by how they dress.

MATURITY WELL ROUNDED-NESS 

Again, this is tricky. You don't want to act too mature because nobody is really completely 100 percent mature. At least I hope not. There is a time and a place for that. We guys like to think we are pretty hot stuff. We try and come up with inventive dates, or cultural experiences and we hope you know how to appreciate and enjoy a variety of things EVEN if its not your cup of tea. At least I think girls should like to go out and do stuff, see shows go on a hike, paint, make a stupid movie...you know? :)

YOUR HAIR 

I often get the question, "What do you notice first about a girl." I tell them quite frankly their hair. If they know how to shape their face correctly with their hair..ooooh. So nice. Let me just say, that this does not mean you have to do your hair every day. Heavens, we all hear how long it takes you to do your hair every morning. Another piece of advice, if you have longer hair, a nice messy bun is SO classy. I really can't get enough of it.

SELF CONFIDENCE ~CONTINUED~

Beeeeee Yourself. There is really little more attractive than a girl who knows who she is and can make fun of herself when she does something stupid. Actually, I would have to say that is my favorite quality; (along with a sense of humor) someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously.

College Professors

I have a Professor in College.

She thinks we a have little to no Knowledge.

We don't get much Done

but sure have some Fun

as her idiocy we  graciously Acknowledge

{Sir Charles III}

SIGNORA!!!

I'm sorry for the Italian but it would be just rude otherwise.

ALLORA!!!

Madonna, é da tanto che volevo scrivere qualcosa riguarda la situazione con una dei miei colleghi di ballo. Ne ho tre. Due sono brave. Una non lo é. Chiameremo lei Mirandolina. E bravissima a ballare, non fraintendere. Infatti, é stato proprio per quel motivo che volevo ballare con lei. Dovrei cominciare all’inizio. Sarà lunga. Mi dispiace.

Allora, all’inizio di questo semestre, come ogni altro missionario tornato, flirtavo con tutte le belle ragazze. In tanto, ho incontrato una ragazza, che ballava bene anche, Mirandolina. Ci incontrevamo con le sue amiche (nel primo anno a scuola, ch’é un’altra storia di quanto mi da fastidio ragazze del primo anno). 

Con il passaggio di tempo, ci incontrevamo piú spesso, guardando i flim, cucinando cena, ecc. Siccome la nostra generazione vuole sapere tutto l’informazione personale dei nostri amici e nemici, naturalmente sono andato sul Facebook e imparava che lei stava frequentando qualcuno mentre mi mostrava interessa. 

 

Poco tempo dopo, il suo ragazzo é venuto in aereo per il compleanno di Mirandolina. Durante questa settimana naturalmente, c’é stato questa scomodità fra io e la Mirandolina. Le pratiche non andavano bene. Tutto é smesso fra di noi. Realizzavo a questo momento che non vorrei stare con qualcuno cosí. 

 Inutile dire che non facevo tanto con Mirandolina dopo aver incontrato il suo ragazzo. Penso che il ragazzo é venuto proprio per quel motivo. 

Dunque, un mese é passato e controllavo il Facebook di Mirandolina. Non frequentavo nessuno. Ridevo un pó si. Rido ancora ogni volta mi parla di come sarà il suo marito futuro. Come se volesse mostrare che non capiterà mai un relazzione fra noi due. Meno male. Più di ogni altra ragazza in quest’ultima semestre, non vorrei mai frequentare Mirandolina di nuovo. Pensa di essere qualche granche é non lo é.